[It was only now when I learned that many demanded for more posts from me about love/relationship… I thought before that no one cared much about my posts ’til I have read the comments sent to my spam folder, haha. So here I go.]
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(davidsrosen.com)
* When discerning about this, do not consider the outer self of the person. That includes looks or appearance, body, wealth, talents, reputation, fame, etc. Reflect on whether you’ll still accept/love him/her even without these, as these things are only temporary.
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* Do not consider how long have you been with that person, but your experiences with him/her. What is 5 or even 10 years of knowing each other if you never had experiences with that someone? And sometimes, a person unfortunately thinks that he/she already knows that someone because of the long period of time he/she had known that person. Experiences with the person is important because through these, you get to know him/her.
(source: sarahburningham.com)
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* Consider what you know about that person. Not just the simple stuff like he/she is good at this, he/she is known for that, he/she excels at this, etc. Include the person’s flaws and how different you are from him/her, and that is very important. Reflect on whether you’ll still love/accept the person despite his/her greatest flaws.
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QUESTIONS TO PONDER ON:
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* Will you still love him/her even if he or she is not rich, even if he/she’s just simple, even if he/she’s not good at this skill or sport or whatever, even if he/she’s fat or too skinny, or even if his/her beautiful face transforms into the face of a hideous monster after an accident? (yeah, this may sound funny but I’m just being realistic) Will you still do? If not then what you’re feeling is only conditional “love” or infatuation; meaning, you like him/her just because of his/her “outer-self”. If yes, then that is unconditional love.
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* Do you have enough experiences with that person, enough for you to really know him/her? You don’t need 10 years for you to know that person, and of course, a month is not enough (common sense). Reflect. If no, then you should get more experiences with him/her and know that person more before discerning, again, on whether he/she is Mr./Ms. Right or not. If yes, then great, move on to the next/last question to ponder on.
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* A very very important question: Do you know him/her very well? Do you know that he/she becomes annoying or irritating when he/she becomes/does this or that? Do you know that he/she can never help you with this stuff? Do you know his/her personality that may result to chaos or great argument between you two? Do you know that he/she hates this and that? Do you know what he/she hates and loves most? Do you know what annoys and makes him/her happy the most? Do you know that person? If no, then know him/her more first. But if yes, do you/ will you still love that person despite his/her greatest flaws/downfalls?
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Of course, if your answers to the three, bold/italicized questions are all YES, then congrats. You just found the right guy for you. 🙂
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Simple as that. 😉 Happy discerning!
***i just googled the photos! lol ****
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